Wednesday, September 26, 2012

INSAAF retained for drafting bill for protecting of men from intimate partner violence

INSAAF has been retained by prominent Indian men's rights organisations along with  some key Members of parliament for drafting a Intimate Terror (Domestic Violence) act which specifically caters to protecting men and boys from domestic violence from their spouse , girlfriends and parents. It has been alleged that Husbands and boyfriends in Indian are specifically excluded from protected under domestic violence laws in India. Research has also shown that there have been significant demand from all quarters for creation of laws to protect men from intimate terror but all these requests have so far not led to to formulation of an actual law which is believed to have caused due to unavailability of a government forum to consider the safety and security of Indian men in general.

Preliminary Study results from INSAAF's study of Intimate Terror

INSAAF's researchers have collated vast amount of peer reviewed data and evidence from personal interviews of male victims, court case records , statements made by honorable courts and media articles and has determined that domestic violence abuse of Indian males falls across a wide range of categories namely

a. Physical abuse : Husbands and Male partners have presented serious evidence of been  scratched , punched , bit , things thrown at them by their female partners apart from attacks with deadly instruments. In the absence of a legal system to protect men from physical violence  these victims get little or no medical care or attention and are even unable to speak of their physical wounds due to the unavailability of a law to protect them from abuse.

b. Emotional abuse :  Demands to forcefully separate the husband from his parents and family , demand for separate residence, threat of Police action and legal recourse if the wife's demands are not met were  some of the commonly seen tactics of emotional abuse. Also , constant non-cooperation of the wife or the female partner in the smooth running of a family was another commonly seen tactic which was used to abuse husbands in case of non fulfillment of the demands of the wife.

c. Verbal abuse : Calling husbands and male partners derogatory names with an intent to demean and hurt. Names like "impotent" , "Spineless" , "Hijra(Eunuch)" have most commonly come up and were verbal abuses that were levelled against Husbands and male partners with an intent to cause pain and ignominy. Many husbands provided evidence of suffering of such verbal abuse for decades primarily due to their specific inability to earn an income as per the demands of their spouses.    

d. Legal abuse : The acts of misusing the state machinery by the wife or female partner for intent of coercing the husband or the male partner to abide by their demands. Common amongst these are misuse of IPC 498a , DV act 2005 , Rape/Molestation Laws , Denying Child custody on event of separation and Maintenance laws.

e. Economic abuse :- Constant irrational demands on the husband for purchase of jewelery , real estate , expensive clothing , automobiles , restaurant hospitality, feminine beauty products and demands for payments to family members of the wife's family was evidenced .When the husband or the male partner was unable to meet the financial demands of the female partner they were subjected to further emotional and physical abuse. A lot of data spoke of  severe economic abuse and daily non co-operatory tactics to force the man to increase his income beyond his normal means and capability. Inability of the man to earn more led to further domestic abuse and which in many cases led to legal and physical violence and an eventual divorce.

f. Sexual abuse: Using consensual physical relations to coerce a man for either financial payments and/or forced marriage . Threatening to file cases of rape and molestation after consensual physical relations. Forcing men to start families against their will and denying physical relation in a matrimonial relation if to irrational and unreasonable demands are not fulfilled.

INSAAF's study has also has taken into account the scale and propensity of abuse of husbands and males partners in India and compared that to worldwide abuse numbers . We have concluded that in in more than 50% of cases wives and females also initiated fights which led to intimate terror attacks on their male partners. The bill is going through its final touches  and  will be presented for consideration during the winter session of the parliament.

Saturday, September 1, 2012

INSAAF strongly condemns proposed anti male Sexual Harrasment at Workplace law

INSAAF strongly protests the volte-face by the Indian government on the Sexual harrasment at workplace bill and the deploratory act of then quietly  trying to sneak in anti-male legislation titled “Protection of Women against Sexual Harassment Bill”. INSAAF is sad that the enormous evidence that was presented by INSAAF in favour of a Gender Neutral law was categorcally sidelined Radical Indian feminist forces under the very nose of the government.

INSAAF feels that the proposed bill will .
1. Will completely destroy the workplace harmony.

2. Will convert professional rivalries and jealousies into frivolous complaints and will become yet another source of extortion of a man’s money.

3. Will motivate companies to stop hiring of female candidates.

4. Will put Corporate honchos, bureaucrats, politicians and all male employees at the mercy of women who can simply use (read misuse) this law to cover their incompetence.

5. Will create further anti-male gender bias in the workplace and will contribute to more men committing suicides.

6. Already men commit suicides to the tune of 4 times compared to women in workplaces as per data by Union Home Ministry.

We strongly oppose the gender bias and anti-male nature of this law and demand that this law should be made gender neutral.

Brief background of the law:

1. This bill has been proposed in 2007 based on judgment by the Honorable Supreme Court in the Vishakha case.

2. INSAAF opposed it even at that point of time and the bill was finally sent to a Parliamentary Standing Committee in the year 2010. INSAAF was also invited multiple times to the Rajya Sabha and while deposing in front of the parliamentary committe presented enormous evidence in favor of making this law gender neutral.

3. Others Men’s rights activists other than INSAAF deposed before the committee in 2011 and based on their representation, the Committee recommended the Govt. of India to make the bill gender neutral and provide protection to men as well.

4. In 2012 May the cabinet approved the law, without taking into consideration, the recommendations made by the Parliamentary Standing Committee.

5. This clearly exposes the double standards of the Govt. and it also brings forth the fact that sending it to the Parliamentary Committee was just eyewash and the Government never really intended to provide men, a safe atmosphere to work in office.

India is an isolated country:

1. It is extremely surprising that when most of the countries are moving forward and coming up with gender neutral laws, India is moving back in time and is all set to pass an anti-male and a gender biased law.

2. This law is Gender Neutral in most of the countries where it is prevalent.

3. According to a report on Sexual harassment at workplace by United Nations Economic Commission of Europe, around 25 countries in and around Europe and Asia like Austria, Belgium, Cyprus, the Czech Republic, Denmark, Estonia, Finland, France, Germany, Hungary, Ireland, Italy, Lithuania, Luxembourg, Malta, the Netherlands, Poland, Portugal, The Slovak Republic, Slovenia, Spain, Sweden, United Kingdom have policies for Sexual Harassment, that are gender neutral.

4. The US and most countries in ASEAN region also have Gender Neutral laws. Even neighboring Pakistan has Gender Neutral Sexual Harassment policies.

WCD's kangaroo court are conducting surveys on men is a hogwash at best :

1. INSAAF hereby clearly and categorically opposes the announcement made by the Ministry of Women and Child Development (WCD) ministry made on the 21st of August 2012 that it intends to conduct a study on the sexual harassment faced by men.

2. However, it also said that the study was a matter of future and currently the law should be passed as it is i.e. gender biased and anti-male in nature.

3. It is the same WCD ministry that has gone on record to say that, “Protection of men is not their mandate” and now that they are facing opposition from some quarters of the Govt. of India in getting this biased, anti-male and extortionary law passed, they have started to make hollow claims of promising to study harassment of men. The act of WCD's kangaroo court making such claims is laughable at best and at worst shows the extent this ministry of government can stoop to pursue its feminist agenda.

4. Whereas in reality, when they have already gone on record to say that it is not their mandate to protect men, it is very clear that their intention of studying sexual abuse of men is not at all a bonafide one and is subject to strong suspicion.

5. This announcement is just a diversionary tactic from their side so that the law gets passed the way they want it and later the same can be used to extort and blackmail men at workplaces too.

Sexual Harassment of Men:

Contrary to popular belief, men do face sexual harassment at workplace and more often than not find unwanted feminine attention overwhelming and discomforting. Further worse, pervert social mindsets force the male victims to keep mum.

Some of the common forms of such harassment which males face, from their female colleagues in their workplace are,

1. Lewd remarks about the dressing sense of men.

2. Bold comments about physique and physical appearance of men.

3. Uncanny close approach by a female colleague towards a male colleague while trying to discuss some official matters.

4. Calling a male colleague inside a cabin and try to talk personal matters with him in office hours.

5. Requesting a male colleague to stay back late at night and accompany or ask for a drop.

6. Female colleagues wearing revealing clothes that make the professional atmosphere uncomfortable.

7. Talking about sexual matters freely with a male colleague despite his discomfiture to the same and ignoring his warnings at times to not to discuss such matters with him.

8. Asking out a male colleague.

These and many other forms of sexual harassment of men, more often than not go, unnoticed and unreported primarily because,

1. It is considered unmanly for a man to complain of sexual harassment.

2. Society refuses to believe that men can be victims of feminine sexual aggression.

3. Men are socially conditioned to accept welcoming and approaching gestures from females sportingly and in this process their own choices, aspirations and emotions are mercilessly trampled.

4. Society ridicules men who are uncomfortable in female company by giving them name tags such as “boring, fag, sissy, geeky, nerdy” etc. Such social mindsets often force men to “look” happy in a female company and it also trivializes their concerns from a male sexuality perspective.

5. Adverse media coverage and systemic gender bias against men suppresses them to a larger extent and truth barely and rarely comes out.

Credible surveys  have unearthed truth:

The Economic Times had conducted a survey titled the ET-Synovate survey, in which it came out that as far as 55% of men feel that they faced sexual harassment from the female colleagues and bosses and they need protection. The survey was covered in 7 cities including Bangalore, Delhi. Hyderabad, Mumbai.

First ever helpline for protection of men from sexual harassment:

INSAAF hails the act of establising  the first ever men’s helpline for Indian that caters to men facing sexual/workplace harassment from the colleagues, especially female colleagues.

Even a facebook page has been created for this and the URL for the same is,

And following are the helplines

1. Delhi – 9818509406

2. Mumbai – 9322156141

3. Bangalore – 9535109509

4. Nagpur – 9890974788

INSAAF's demands:

1. The Govt. of India must not pass this law in the current form and it must consult the men’s rights organizations, make it gender neutral including its title and then only pass it.

2. The new bill must be re-drafted by a neutral ministry like the Ministry of Law and Justice or the Human Resources Development ministry.

3. The draft prepared by the WCD ministry must be discarded as a ministry that openly justifies its anti-male stance cannot be allowed trample the Constitutional right of men which entitles them to a safe working environment. WCD's kangaroo court must be summarily disbarred from conducting any studies on men.

4. The WCD must be stopped from conducting any study on male issues.

5. Govt. must form a separate commission, called the National Commission for Men, containing people who have championed the cause of men’s rights and such a commission must study male issues.

6. Govt. must form Men Welfare Ministry to take care of welfare of men.