Monday, March 22, 2010

Action Item !! Say NO to Dowry Law amendments !

Download the letter , enter your name and address and send it to the addressed mentioned below them

Letter to protest against Dowry law amendments

Addressto be sent to :

1. Dr. Brahm A. Agrawal ,
2nd Floor, The Indian Law Institute Building,
(Opp. to Supreme Court), Bhagwandas Road, New Delhi - 110 001.

2.Dr.Manmohan Singh,
Prime Minister of India, 
Prime Minister's Office,
South Block, Raisina Hill, New Delhi – 110011.  

3. The Hon'ble Mr P Chidambaram
Ministry of Home Affiars, North Block
Central Secretariat
New Delhi - 110-001

4.Smt.Prathibha DeviSingh Patil,
President of India, 
Rashtrapathi Bhavan, New Delhi – 110004 

New address Updated 

5. The Hon'ble Timothy Roemer
    US Ambassador to India
    U.S. Embassy
    Shantipath, Chanakyapuri
    New Delhi - 110021

In the letter please write  the below in the "To" section 
so that it reaches Hillary Clinton in US through Timothy Roemer

The Honorable Hillary Clinton,
Secretary of State , USA,

Letter to thank MHA for CrPC amendments

Addresses to be sent to :
Honorable P Chidambaram 
Minister for Home Affairs
Ministry of Home Affairs, North Block
Central Secretariat
New Delhi - 110 001

Friday, March 19, 2010

The Reasons why Indian men are falling victims to Marital terrorism

Legal Terrorism in India is defined as wives / women misusing marital/ women centric laws against their male counterparts to extort money/benefits.This phenomenon is spreading like an uncontrolled cancer in the Indian society today with millions of innocent men being victimized . With more than 56000 husbands driven to suicide every year , men’s rights groups normally resort to blaming the militant Feminists , the biased laws and the apathetic Indian Government for the flourishing Legal terrorism industry in India . However apart from significant contribution of these agencies the Husbands ( and Men ) themselves also play a the role of very significant catalysts in this industry .Indian Males need to be sensitized to these issues right from childhood and must be taught that they too can become victims at the hands of a woman. Traits like chauvinism , protector , provider must be shunned by males all over since these are the roles that prevent males from speaking up against spousal abuse. Men must me learn to scream/wail at first chance just like women do . Men need to a learn of behavioral traits from women themselves if they are to survive in a increasingly biased world of feminist hegemony. 

The Below article examines why the Indian Husbands are increasingly falling prey to the systematic discrimination against males under the guise of woman empowerment.

PS :- Please also read the article below . The author has very well articulated the way Indian husbands are manipulated by wives after marraige.

The facade of weakness is a Woman's biggest strength.
The facade of strength is a Man's biggest weakness.

A lot myths drilled into Indian boys as then grow up to become men are the primary cause why men resort to taking their own lives when faced with Marital Terrorism. Below are the most important myths that Indian men have which are shattered in quick succession when they are faced with a legal terrorist.  

1)India is a Male dominated Society :- Indian husbands are brought up thinking they live in a male dominated society. This leads them to have a feeling of invincibility until they are entangled in legal cases and the government forcibly castrates them in court. Right from King Shantanu to King Dasharat faced life long sorrow and troubles because of the irresponsible behavior of women in their lives. However men still believe it is they who dominate.

2)Indian men feel women are the weaker sex: "The facade of weakness is a Woman's biggest strength." With 11,000 crores( $ 2.5 Billion )  of annual funding and 13 explicit laws for women, women are not the weaker sex by even a far cry. However Indian males are feeling still not able to shake of this  is by far the biggest reason that men are victimized. Indian Men are unaware that right from the Indian home ministry to the Indian finance ministry shudder at the thought of Militant feminists and are willing to go head over heels to appease them first. This is not an exaggeration but the brutal reality.

3)Men do not even realize they are the victims :- Indian men do not even realize that they are the real victims . So deep rooted are the feeling mentioned in points 1 and 2 that even when a male has been made to pay through his nose , he still feels that he dominates the society.

4)Men always ignore the telltale signs:- My Wife can only so do so much , so lets not bother , is what Indian Males feel till they are hot by legal terrorism . A Legal terrorist almost always provides many telltale signs before it actually attacks. Indian husbands almost always ignore these signs and do not realize they are the going to be in the crosshairs of a legal terrorist.Instead of safeguarding themselves before even the terror attack takes place Indian Males prefer not care. 

5)I am a Man, I need to fix my problems myself:- Unlike women who want their fathers , families and government intervention to resolve most of  their problems , men are programmed to resolve their issues on their own. Indian Males who see other men being victimized do not approach to help them (unlike women ) as men feel that it is below their dignity or manliness to help other men. The Male who gets victimized also feels that  it is below his manliness to seek help. Most men feel they can handle it own their own , when the reality is that they do not know the seriousness of the matter and  prefer to believe that it is a shame to speak publicly about the Domestic Violence or Emotional/Verbal /Physical/Financial  abuse they suffer at home.

6) Men do not Speak up :- Women cry rape even they have not been raped , they cry domestic voilence even when spoken loudly to. However most  men undergo legal rape in courts and police station at the behest of their bitter halves but still remains silent  and prefer not to speak up . The reason this happens is that males are emotionally castrated from childhood and  are taught that being a man means  swallowing your pain and display and outwardly state of calm. The Indian Society will change and become cognizant of the problems faced by males only when men start to speak up and scream rape just like women.Men who silently suffer are the ones who prone to suicide. Even the suicide of men normally goes in vain. The sympathy of the society lies with the women again and she is showered with widow benefits . The Indian government does not even investigate the reasons why 56000 husbands commit suicide every year and brushes them under the carpet.

7)Escapism (Let me Pay and Settle) :- Men who prefer to “settle” instead of "fight" are the ones fueling the legal terrorism and extortion industry. India too like a meek husband has tried to settle the issue of Kashmir for the past 50 years . Has it helped ? Will India ever pay the territory of  Kashmir to the LET and “Settle“ the case , if NO then why do husbands reward their legal terrorist wives to settle ? The simple reason that men pay is the sole reason that women extort. Negotiating with terrorists weather with gun or a law is not an option. Settling and rewarding the terrorists does not lead to peace it leads to further bloodshed on others , because if one terrorist succeeds then others are prompted to turn into  terrorists themselves . If men stop paying a penny , or adopt a no settlement policy , then automatically legal terrorists will be unable to extort.

8) Defensive attitude :- Wives always play offensive and husbands play defensive in matrimonial matters. This is also partly true because of the biased and one sided judicial system in our country and unavailability of male protection laws. However even with the available options men  prefer to settle the case and pay up rather than attacking the legal terrorist and punishing her.

9)This will not happen to me:- " The men protesting are a bunch of losers , I would rather watch cricket !! This is what friends and colleagues will think when they see a friend of their hot by a legal terror .According to statistics in the next 5 years 1 in 6 persons in Delhi will have had at least 1 dowry case against him /her in  his /her lifetime.Male bonding is limited to sports and games and is seldom shown in family matters. A Male who is a victim of abuse by his wife is looked upon as a loser rather than a victim.

10) Forgiveness/ Marry an Ex Terrorist  :- "What if a woman has filed 498A , Maintenance and DV cases , let me forgive her and live with her again" or "What if she has used this laws in her last marraige she will not do it again" . While the conviction rate of a first 498A offense is less than 1% for the second offense it rises to 90% .This is because the even the anti male  Indian courts are not able to understand the reason why a husband who was victimized before chose to live with the same woman again.While nothing is more stupid that living for the second time with wives like these ,  Males seeking second marriages also MUST steer clear of women who have used of any of the laws above. These laws have no place in a marraige and women who have used these laws have done so only to misuse them. Only when there is social ostracization of women and their families who misuse these laws will there rise a conscience and fear amongst people who misuse these laws .

10)The law will do me justice: -  And finally The Biggest myth of all . Unless a husband has stepped into a criminal court in a 498A case or a Family court for a family case, he believes and trusts in a myth that the courts will give his justice and relief. Once he lands in court he is shocked to see the terrible bias against husbands in . The wife can and will get away even if she commits the most heinous of crimes . The courts will ALWAYS rule in the wives favor even if all the evidences and arguments favor the husband. The wives can commit hundred  cases of perjury but the judge will rule that he will not prosecute the wife because it is not "Expedient for Justice" .The Indian judges are programmed to act as the wives’ lawyers and husband is not provided relief in any case. The Husband is considered to be the culprit unless he is proven innocent. Weather it is in a 498A or Maintenance or divorce, the husband is always on the receiving of the justice end in court. Even after 17 years of fighting a divorce case a male Supreme Court judge in India told a husband to listen to his wife even when she spoke nonsense.  The earlier the husband understands the terrible anti husband bias, the better he can plan his battle.There is no justice that husbands can expect from courts.

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Nagpur Mother-in-laws hold press conference against Anti-Family laws

Mother in laws from Nagpur have united under the All India Mother-in-law Protection forum to demand their rights as women on the upcoming International Women's day.(IWD) .The Mother-in-laws demanded protection and creation of laws which protects them from harassment from their daughter-in-laws apart from demands to make marital laws gender neutral offering equal protection to women from the husbands side also. They also demanded that the women’s commission treat complaints from mother-in-laws with equal importance as they treat complaints from daughter-in-laws. Indian women’s' follow a highly anti-male approach and do not entertain complaints from women unless the complaints is against a man. The Indian police on the other hand holds the dubious distinction of  arresting over 126,000 women  without trail or evidence  in the last 4 years alone under the draconian 498A under the guise of women empowerment.

Photo Courtesy - Rajesh Vakharia
Link - Nagpur Mother-in-laws organise Press conference  for IWD

Press Coverage for Press Conference of AIMPF - Links ( Courtesy Rajesh Vakharia )


 Press Conference Nagpur Dharna by AIMPF - Links ( Courtesy Rajesh Vakharia )