The feminists have essentially lost even more credibility in eyes of the law and the people by these statements. Women empowerment can never happen by breeding an army of parasite wives. A marriage is not a service that the woman is providing the man and hence she cannot be legally entitled to get paid for the service. A marriage is a partnership and if why one partner should be forced to pay another partner if this partnership should break. The whole idea of Alimony is to provide temporary support to a “person”( husband/wife) who has contributed to the marriage and needs that support. The support is for the person to able to stand on his/her own feet and resume normal life . Yes , the support should be directly proportional to the person’s contribution and requirements( including children ) and cannot be made a right no matter what . Forcefully providing support to a parasitic wife included to enjoy at the husband’s expenses while voluntarily incapacitating herself at home would lead to sending a totally wrong message to the young girls whose sole idea then would be to make a “good catch” in the form of a husband and then milk him for alimony . Is this the sort of future generation of Indian women we are envisioning ?
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Ye Wives Maange More !!!
The feminists have essentially lost even more credibility in eyes of the law and the people by these statements. Women empowerment can never happen by breeding an army of parasite wives. A marriage is not a service that the woman is providing the man and hence she cannot be legally entitled to get paid for the service. A marriage is a partnership and if why one partner should be forced to pay another partner if this partnership should break. The whole idea of Alimony is to provide temporary support to a “person”( husband/wife) who has contributed to the marriage and needs that support. The support is for the person to able to stand on his/her own feet and resume normal life . Yes , the support should be directly proportional to the person’s contribution and requirements( including children ) and cannot be made a right no matter what . Forcefully providing support to a parasitic wife included to enjoy at the husband’s expenses while voluntarily incapacitating herself at home would lead to sending a totally wrong message to the young girls whose sole idea then would be to make a “good catch” in the form of a husband and then milk him for alimony . Is this the sort of future generation of Indian women we are envisioning ?
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Protest against Malimath Committee recommendations
Letter is available at
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http://bit.ly/c7lGrh
Address to send is :-
**************************** Honourable Law Minister,
Shri S Suresh Kumar,
Ministry for Law & Parliamentary Affairs,
#327, Vidhana Soudha,
Bangalore-560001
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Legal rape of Husbands: India’s fastest growing crime
“Just like a man misusing his physical strength on a woman is called a rapist , a female misusing her legal strength on a man must be also called as a rapist. “
--- A Gender rights activist
What is Rape ?
The word rape itself originates from the Latin verb rapere: to seize or take by force. According to the feminists Rape is about power, not sex. A rapist uses actual force or violence — or the threat of it — to take control over another human being. Rape is categorized as a crime against humanity.
How can a rapist exercise power on a victim?
A rapist can exercise power on a victim either physically or legally. When it comes to physical rapes since men are physically more powerful than women and this results in a significantly larger percentage of physical rape victims being women .
There are also a lot of instances when a wife wants to illegally exercise her power on her husband and use actual force or the threat of it to take control of her husband. In these instances the wife legally rapes the husband using government backed laws and misusing the state machinery.
What is a legal rape ?
A legal rape is a situation when a person used the legal system to unleash trauma and violence on the victim in order to exercise power on the victim and to control the victim.
How Indian husband are legally raped?
In order to exercise her control and power over her husband ore in some instances punish him for not towing her line Indian wives frequently resort to using her legal power to unleash trauma and suffering on the husband many times over his entire family . Primary among the tools of legal rape are section 498a , DV act of 2005 , Maintenance and Child custody laws.
The symptoms leading to the legal rape have an uncanny similarity to the physical rape of women.
a) The legal rapist is always close acquaintance of the victim in the from of wife , daughter in law or sister-in-law.
b) The victim refuses to abide by the whims of the rapist.
c) The rapist develops deep rooted hatred for the victim and has a desire to control the life of the victim and exercise power over the victim.
d) The rapist uses her legal force to rape the victim.
e) Many times the wife legally rapes the husband impulsively as opportunity presently itself and might later regret the act.
f) Very often the legal rapists say that the trigger for the legal rape was when a husband made them angry, usually by rebuffing a wife’s whims and fancies or toeing her line.
The effects of Legal Rape ?
Just like the symptoms the aftermath if a legal rape is also similar to a physical rape.
Victims of legal rape can be severely traumatized by the assault and may have difficulty functioning as well as they had been used to prior to the assault, with disruption of concentration, sleeping patterns and eating habits, for example. They may feel jumpy or be on edge. After being legally raped, it is common for the victim to experience acute stress disorder, including symptoms similar to those of posttraumatic stress disorder, such as intense, sometimes unpredictable, emotions, and they may find it hard to deal with their memories of the event. In the months immediately following the legal rape , these problems may be severe and very upsetting and may prevent the victim from revealing their ordeal to friends or family, or seeking police or medical assistance. Additional symptoms of Acute Stress Disorder include:
* Depersonalization or dissociation (feeling numb and detached, like being in a daze or a dream, or feeling that the world is strange and unreal)
* Difficulty remembering important parts of the assault
* reliving the assault through repeated thoughts, memories, or nightmares
* Avoidance of things, places, thoughts, and/or feelings that remind the victim of the assault
* Anxiety or increased alertness (difficulty sleeping, concentrating, etc.)
* Avoidance of social life
For one-third to one-half of the victims, these symptoms continue beyond the first few months and meet the conditions for the diagnosis of posttraumatic stress disorder
The facts of legal rape in India
- The incidence of legal rapes of husbands is thousands of percentages higher than that the physical rapes of women. The legal rape has become a profitable industry for the Lawyers and the Legal rapist wives.
- The legal rape system is backed by the government even though there is little difference between raping a woman by physical force and raping man using legal force .
- Physical rape affects one woman , while legal rape affects the family of the man including men , women and children
- In Legal rape the victim of the rape is asked to compensate the female rapist. No legal rapist has ever been [punished in India for committing such a heinous crime .
- The Indian government has no welfare schemes to rehabilitate the victims of legal rape. Instead finds are allocated to encourage females to legally rape husbands and protect them from prosecution for the legal rape.
- Trauma of a legal rape lasts for a entire lifetime and is much more severe than a physical rape. Many times husband are forced take their own lives after being legally raped by the law.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
S Shinde's conversation with V Moily
V Moily :- I am fine dear , how is your papa doing ? The power industry is doing
well, I say. They have put me the laaaaw ministry , what to do ? No Deal ...no
money .. nothing to make in this ministry .
S Shinde :- Oh I see.. Papa is good last week only he did Rs 10,000 crore power deal just last week.
S Shinde :- What happened to the that quick divorce law Veru uncle . I am still
waiting you see. Doctor said , I have like a few more years before I reach my
designated time. Please do it faast Veru uncle ..Please !!
V Moily :- Don't worry beti , I have created the law , but you see in India
there are something even i cannot change . It has to go through a process , it
is with the parliamentary committee now . This laaaw is just tailored for you ,
I have studied your case and created the laaaw just for you, so that only you in
the country will get the divorce even if others do not get it.
S Shinde :- Oh that's great Moily uncle , so by when do you think I can get my
divorce.
V Moily :- I will try my level besht to enshoore that you get diiivorce by end
of December . Because Jan in good lagna for the stars and you can get marraied
by January.
S Shinde:- But people might oppose to the law uncle .Then what will you do ? You
might have to take their suggestions .
V Moily :- When have I taken from the people ? I always give . I Give praamise
after praamise . See finally I got Rs 5000 core allocated for the reforms . Now
I can fin ally get some money for my retirement from here . Otherwise you see it
is very difficult to make any money in the laaaw ministry , I say . Let the
people say whatever thy waant we will do what what we waant to do .After all
Government's work is God's work , and has god ever listed to people . God does
whatever he likes to do .People can pray , but it is up to god to listen.
S Shinde :- Ok Veeru uncle , I need to leave now . I need to shop for Saaries
and Jewels for my marraige .
V Moily :- VOOOK Beti , We will taaalk later , give my best to daddy.
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Govt seeks representations on Marraige law amendment bill
Director of Rajya Sabha Secreteriat,
201 Second floor , Parliament House Annexxe,
New Delhi - 110001
Letter Link - 2( New letter )
Sunday, September 12, 2010
SHWB Mandry Campaign
The Honorable Prime Minister,
South Block, Raisina Hill,
New Delhi,
India-110 101.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Press Coverage : Indian men observe “Sugarless Independence day”
Times of India : For 'harassed' men, Independence Day will be sugarless
Bangalore Mirror : I-Day 'no sugar day' for hubbies
Hindustan Times : For 'harassed' men, Independence Day will be sugarless
The Hindu :Meet on men's rights on August 15
Punjab NewsLine :- SIFF announces 3rd annual men’s right conference on August 15